@ctrlaltdog tbh my goal as a transactivist is not to make people comfortable.
I find pointless to feed fellow trans with delusions that will only reinforce the cis-tem.
But I agree with you when you say that we must not be the only audience when this notion comes up.
We're in the first place when it comes to learn how gender norms works because we learn them very consciously so of course we see have no choice but to see the performance in that.
It's the cis who have to open their eyes about the way they're performing their gender.
Home sweet home.